Top 10 things I'd like to say to BM:
1. Everything isn't about YOU. Our decisions, our discussions, and our opinions ...
are based on the best interest of OUR family, which includes every family member living in our household. It's not an attack against you.
2. When you ask if we've fed the kids, I can't help but think you're being a jerk, because it really is a ridiculous question. If this is truly a concern of yours, why would you allow your children into the care of someone who starves them?
3. Our ideas on how to raise the children may be different from yours, but that doesn't automatically mean that you are right, and we are wrong.
4. Please keep your condescending remarks to yourself. They serve no purpose other than to attack us.
5. Just because you don't blatantly bash us to the children, doesn't mean "bashing" isn't happening. Children are smart. They know exactly what you are implying when you make remarks such as, "I can't buy xyz unless Dad pays for half."
6. We are not second class citizens to the children. Our family and our home is just as important for them to be a part of as yours.
7. The children are not your posessions to use. Using them to control us is not in their best interest.
8. Fathers are just as important in child rearing as Mothers are. Just google the many articles that research backs up.
9. You chose my husband to have children with, so therefore, there must have been qualities in him that you thought would make him a good father. You also chose to divorce him, so on some level you had to know that you would lose part of your control and decision making. You had to realize that he would no longer be an extension of you, and would begin to make decisions based on HIS best interests.....not yours.
10. Your Ex is a man. They are simple creatures, and don't get wrapped up in emotions and/or have to have these deep discussions about the children. He didn't answer his phone 24/7 when you were married to him, he didn't "communicate" to your standards when you were married to him, and he was a little more lax on certain issues that you felt strongly amount when you were married to him. You thought this would change and get better once you divorced?
2. When you ask if we've fed the kids, I can't help but think you're being a jerk, because it really is a ridiculous question. If this is truly a concern of yours, why would you allow your children into the care of someone who starves them?
3. Our ideas on how to raise the children may be different from yours, but that doesn't automatically mean that you are right, and we are wrong.
4. Please keep your condescending remarks to yourself. They serve no purpose other than to attack us.
5. Just because you don't blatantly bash us to the children, doesn't mean "bashing" isn't happening. Children are smart. They know exactly what you are implying when you make remarks such as, "I can't buy xyz unless Dad pays for half."
6. We are not second class citizens to the children. Our family and our home is just as important for them to be a part of as yours.
7. The children are not your posessions to use. Using them to control us is not in their best interest.
8. Fathers are just as important in child rearing as Mothers are. Just google the many articles that research backs up.
9. You chose my husband to have children with, so therefore, there must have been qualities in him that you thought would make him a good father. You also chose to divorce him, so on some level you had to know that you would lose part of your control and decision making. You had to realize that he would no longer be an extension of you, and would begin to make decisions based on HIS best interests.....not yours.
10. Your Ex is a man. They are simple creatures, and don't get wrapped up in emotions and/or have to have these deep discussions about the children. He didn't answer his phone 24/7 when you were married to him, he didn't "communicate" to your standards when you were married to him, and he was a little more lax on certain issues that you felt strongly amount when you were married to him. You thought this would change and get better once you divorced?
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