Let me start by saying that I'm a BM and by no means am I saying that all BM's are like this. But, for the purpose of venting, I'm not going to stop and clarify which BM's I'm referring to.
Why do BM's feel that their children are THEIR possessions? Why do they feel that their "opinions" regarding their children aren't "opinions", but "facts"? Why do BM's feel that they make all of the decisions for the kids, and if you don't agree with them, then you are WRONG? They are ALWAYS right.
They are the ONLY parent that matters. They are the ONLY parent that can truly take care of the kids. And the BD's are just sperm donors who aren't worth anything but a paycheck.
It comes down to one simple thing. BM's own the children. They are BM's property. Therefore, they can do as they please with their property. If BM behaves poorly in front of the kids, it's because YOU made her behave that way, and it's YOUR fault. If you defend yourself, then YOU are the bad guy for raising your voice, even though she just screamed expletives at you, and you are unfit to be around the children.
Ever heard that saying "If I break what's mine, it's ok, but if you break what's mine, I'll be pissed?" BM applies this to "her" children.
What is it going to take to make these women realize these children are not HER property? That these children are their own beings, and BOTH of their parents have the right to make decisions for their best interest. And just because one parent disagrees with the other, doesn't automatically mean they are right!
Vent. Over.
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