Let me help you understand them.
1. You, meaning (you, SD, SS, and DH) are no longer a family unit any longer. That family unit was disconnected the day you filed for divorce. "OUR" family unit now consists of DH, me, SS, and SD..."YOUR" family unit consists of you, your husband, SS, SD, and your baby. So no, you do NOT have TWO families, you have ONE.
2. We don't agree that using children as manipulation tactics is the appropriate way to handle situations when we don't get what we want. Instead, we use "acceptance" and "understanding"......ya think you can try that sometime?? Yeah, you're right..probably not.
3. We don't "choose" one person over the other in our home. There are times where someone may not get the same attention as another, times where decisions have to be made on who will be at certain places/events for one, and who will be there for the other. This by NO means, means we "favor" or "choose" one person over the other in our home. We LOVE and VALUE each and every person in our home. I understand you have a corrupt perception due to your "entitlement" issues that you are now passing down to your daughter. Way to go "MOM", I'm sure this will teach the children respect, humility, understanding, and empathy. Two thumbs up!
4. We, as the adults, caretakers, and decision makers in OUR home, will always discuss things between one another, ESPECIALLY when there is a request made by you and it will usually result in us conversating and making decisions between one another FIRST, and THEN delivering the decision to you. You will always take a backseat in OUR marriage and in OUR home. Get over it.
5. I AM important, and there are times where I **WILL** come first, just like there are times where the skids will come first - it's all dependant upon the circumstances of the situation...sucks for you doesn't it? LOL
You by no means have to 'share' these views - but remember, we don't have to share YOUR views EITHER!
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